You’ve downloaded Tinder, crafted a perfect profile, got some matches. You messaged them only to get no answers. Sounds familiar?
In this article, let’s discuss 3 reasons why you would get ghosted and how you can prevent it!
3 Reasons Why You Would Get Ghosted
First things first, what is the term ‘ghost’ or ‘ghosted’ mean? According to Urban Dictionary, ghosting is when a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice beforehand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.
#1 Your conversation starter is boring!
Do not start your conversation with a simple “Hi!” or “Hey”. You would most probably get the same “Hi!” reply from them. What else would you expect them to reply to you with? ?
The conversation could easily end there and you will get ghosted. A good conversation starter can transform an awkward, stilted conversation into an interesting, enjoyable discussion. You can personalize your conversation starter depending on your match’s profile. Look at his/her bio or profile picture and comment/ask questions about it!
Or, you can have a look at these conversation starters that could help you create that good first impression!
- What’s the most interesting thing you’ve read lately?
- What’s a fact about you that’s not on the internet?
- Do you play any games? Which ones?
- If you were in charge of the playlist, which song would you play next?
- What’s the best gift you’ve ever gotten?
- What’s your favorite part about living in [city]? Least favorite?
#2 You have not set up a hangout session or a date
You have a great conversation with them and you feel like you have started to get to know the person a little. So the main question here is, WHAT’S NEXT? Most of the time, people would get anxious by the thought of asking the person out and risk having a looonggg conversation without any directions or goal.
This could be quite tricky. You do not want to rush the process but you have to know the right time to ask the question. You can look out for any clues they give such as “Do you have any plans for the weekend?” Good luck! ?
#3 “It’s Not You, It’s Me”
Ah, same ol’ same ol’. It’s always the cliché phrase! No worries, sometimes it is true. It is not you and it is them. Do not feel bummed up thinking there is something wrong with you or the things you said. Sure, sometimes people ghost because of something you did — these are just examples of when that isn’t the case.
- They reconnected with their ex
- You are not their cup of tea
- They are just busy keeping up with 100+ other messages
Fret not! There is always plenty of fishes in the sea. Just keep swiping and who knows you’ll get to connect and meet with interesting people in your area! Check out Tinder’s tips on when it’s perfectly acceptable to ghost someone! 😉
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